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Apologies if I sounded like a bitch/anal/irritated in the last post. It’s been an incredibly long 3 weeks. No offence meant to anyone. I just needed to get it out.
And for what it’s worth, have a good weekend. 
I think people don’t get it.
I didn’t fight with my friend because of what he said. No – I fought with him because I was tired of his attitude, tired of him treating me as a child, tired of him acting as if I could not think for myself.
Yes, Poison has rightly pointed out that I should not be fighting with long time friends simply because of the fact that they had the guts to tell me what I knew already, but didn’t seem to want to face up to. I don’t mind them telling me, but I mind them running me – and other parties (in this case, people who you have not even met) down. They have no right to do that – and I have to make that stand clear. Being my friend does not give you licence to run down all the people around me that you have an issue with.
Basically, the point is this – you can tell me you are concerned about me, you can tell me that you don’t like my bfs/relative/what-not. But don’t do it in a way that makes me look stupid for loving them – because basically, you are not the one in the relationship. I am. And I don’t have to justify myself to my friends, unless what I am doing hurts you personally, or involves you.
Sometimes, when you feel that your work is not appreciated, when you begin to feel that you no longer know what you are doing at work, when you are tired from work/personal life/ thoughts running through your head, all you need are some simple words of praise and suddenly, you feel better about yourself.
I received such validation today from a client. I have never meant him before, and he is in U.S.A. I forwarded him a draft response in relation to a certain rather sticky matter, and he simply responded with “Nicely done”, and that he had no comments or anything further to add. Which made me feel really good, especially since the email was copied to my boss.
That’s all you need for a pick-me-up sometimes – even though you are not allowed (legally and for professional indemnity reasons) to put your name to the work that you do, it’s enough that another person recognises that it is YOU who is putting in the effort.
